“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” Aristotle

I can’t lie: 2020 was hard as hell for me! I survived #Covid19 but I’m still dealing with the residual effects of the damage the virus did to my physical and mental health. I watched the world around me change as if I was living in The Matrix or some other sci-fi movie. I waited to hear, “Welcome to Round 4 of Jumanji,” to see if I would survive the video game I was trapped in! 2020 was filled with death, illness, violence, spiritual warfare, religious warfare, bigotry, murder and vile hatred toward the black transgender community, police genocide, and an in-your-face resurgence of White Supremacy being led by #45, our sitting president. This brings me to the title of my article… “CHOOSE YOUR HARD!”

I chose to write about this topic because it was therapy to me. I could not keep the goodness of this revelation to myself. As you journey through life, you will encounter many trials and tribulations. The lessons of these trials set before you are to prepare you for your victory or good rewards. I know this sounds cliché, but it is true. You see, everything in life is inextricably mingled and overlapping. It’s a melancholy truth that just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Life is hard in and of itself, and that is why it’s important to CHOOSE YOUR HARD! How do you “choose your hard”? I’m glad you asked!

Transformation Coach Gwendolyn D. Clemons, Editor-in-Chief of TUV Media

In choosing your hard it should become apparent that in life all things are fair game. With every situation you encounter there is a polar opposite option available for you. Marriage is hard, and yet getting a divorce is hard. Choose your hard. Obesity is hard, and yet being fit is hard. Choose your hard. Being is debt is hard, and yet being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard. Getting to work on time is hard, and yet being fired is hard. Choose your hard. Being broke is hard, and yet becoming wealthy is hard. Choose your hard. Denying yourself your favorite foods is hard, and yet becoming ill because of your poor food choices will be hard. Either way — choose your hard! Neither I, nor anyone else, can choose for you!

This topic is speaking only to that which is within our realm of influence: the life circumstances that we can change, and not the things that are out of our control.

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